Luann de Lesseps and Tom D’Agostino are divorcing. Officially. After their short, short marriage, they’re not trying a trial separation but just ripping off the bandaid.
It’s such a sorry situation for Luann that even Bethenny Frankel feels sorry for her. And Bethenny Frankel isn’t exactly what you’d call a bleeding heart.
Apparently, things aren’t so hard on Tom D’Agostino. And, to absolutely no one’s surprise, Tom is reportedly already back to dating.
Hey, so, remember when Tom D’Agostino spoke to Us Weekly and told them that he and Luann had a lot of love between them and had no plans to split?
Well … we don’t want to be mean and say womp womp, but that sure didn’t last.
As it turns out, cheating on your fiance right before your engagement party doesn’t usually spell success for your marriage.
Basically everyone had warned Luann, but if she was a fool to marry Tom, then she was a fool who wanted to believe that love could conquer all obstacles and overcome any issues in their relationship.
There are worse dumb things to believe.
Overall, it seemed, Tom D’Agostino just had a wandering eye, and wandering other parts, and wasn’t going to let a little thing like marriage to a beautiful celebrity like Luann hold him back.
(It sounds like he might have some impulse-control issues, with a severe case of basically being immune to consequences and the entitlement that comes with that)
So, given that he was reportedly getting around during his engagement and marriage to Luann, it’s not really a shock to hear that he’s already back to dating openly.
Us Weekly reports that Tom D’Agostino is
“Tom has been seeing a few of the women in his life, including Missy, but hasn’t rebounded with anyone in particular yet.”
That’s a reference to his ex-girlfriend, Missy Tool.
Us Weekly says that another source insists that Missy and Tom are “just friends.”
Overall, though, that sounds pretty consistent with Tom, though we’d point out that seeing a bunch of different women is fine … when you’re single.
As he is no0w.
The first source has more to add.
“He didn’t want to do any interviews until he sees Luann’s sit-down with Andy to see if she bad-mouths him. Tom is really trying to take the high road with the divorce.”
Tom and Luann filed jointly for divorce, so it makes sense for them to try to be amicable.
There was a rumor floating around towards the end of their marriage …
(Though the eight-month marriage was so brief that any part of it could also be said to be “right at the beginning”)
… That Luann had struck Tom, slapping him in a restaurant. That sounded a lot like domestic violence.
When asked about it, Luann had stated that she had grabbed his face during their conversation. That’s not okay either, but a lot less alarming.
Tom’s rumored cheating plagued their relationship almost from the beginning, to the point where it became a storyline on The Real Housewives of New York City.
Tom is said to have grown tired of his newfound spotlight and celebrity status that came with marrying a Real Housewife, though … many imagine that the true impetus behind the divorce was the cheating.
We wonder if Tom has ever considered that he should be in an open relationship?
If he wants the affection and stability of a committed partner but also wants to be free to hook up with different women, that’s totally possible.
Polyamorous relationships can take a lot of forms, and the simplest of them is a couple that’s in an open relationship where both partners love and support each other but also know that they don’t need to sneak around if they hook up with a coworker or friend or a stranger in a bar.
Of course, for some people, it’s not that they just don’t like exclusivity — there are people who get a thrill from cheating and prefer things that way. That is something very different.
Honestly, we just want Luann and Tom to be able to move on and live their best lives.
And not repeat past mistakes.